...it's not just a pretty face Part Deux....

I couldn't agree more my brutha.. Ambition and Inspiration are key.. I would go as far as to say that these two things might actually outweigh the 3 standard guy requirements for a girl (a pretty face, big titties, and an ass)... Well.. maybe not that far! haha..jk. Funny you say this because after my past relationship started to turn south, lacking those 2 qualities and her being high maintenance made it easier to say.....See ya... "Aimlessly going through life and complaining about it" is a classic line.. That pretty much summed her up.. She wanted to be ambitious and do things, but it had to be on her time... and inspiring? Let me tell you.. If shopping was considered an act of god.. she would be a saint! haha..

But needless to say... there aren't too many people, whether male or female that are impressionable or do it for the right reasons anyways. It is hard to meet good people these days, let alone a girl that possesses such qualities.. I guess that's what makes life challenging, but worth it.. You cherish the moments you spend with those few people that can have this adverse affect on you and you make them a part of your life forever..

The girl's lental act is beautiful. (If she meets the 3 requirements above, throw her number my way! haha. j.k) I admire people that do things to try and better who they are. If only the average girl could realize these things and not wait for adversity to challenge them. Us guys want to kiss your asses believe me! But give us something to work with.. and not just an empty wallet!

... it's not just a pretty face ...

I know some of you females read this to get a glimpse on the male psyche... to peep into the game plan of the other team... Well I'm sorry to say, but we men have this playbook, see... and it's guarded closely... and all this bull about us being ruled by our third leg is just a cleverly crafted smokescreen...

But don't dismay... I'll be throwing out a couple nuggets of info... just a teaser, see... just a glimpse of how deep our appreciation of the opposite sex can be...

Ambitious

That's right. You've gotta have it. If you don't, we're not going beyond friendship. It doesn't have to do with career or anything monetary... it's just knowing what you want and having a gameplan to go after it... There is no bigger turnoff for me than someone who's just aimlessly going through life and complaining about it... There are no victims here...

Inspiring

There's gotta be something about you that makes me want to be a better person... not for you, but for me. One person I know gave up driving for lent... and she isn't even religious... she just liked the thought of giving up something that you think you couldn't live without... Now that's sexy...

Good to know we got more writers or may I say "bruthas" in here. I agree about this title thang.. kinda lame.. I know plenty chicks like that. Funny thing is.. the girls only do it if their man is a lawyer or a doctor or "going to be" a career that shells out coin.. You rarely here them say, "hey.. come meet my Boyfriend Steve.. he's unemployed right now".. The announcement seems to be more a trophy line more than anything.. I remember this chick talked about her boyfriend to me one time and started explaining to me what he does with that "don't worry, he's going to be successful smurk" and I quickly realized that and cut her off saying, (in my signature sarcastic tone) "What are you guys going to do with all the money he's going to make?" haha. She was white.. she laughed with me..

Anyways moving on.. speaking of the ex.. It seems like you turned the chapter on that book already. You got everything you could want from it. I mean.. c'mon.. the guy she's seeing now reminds her of you! That's so money brother.. That means this new guy is always going to be compared to you in her mind and the things you are better at will be glaring at her face...(QUICK PIMP NOTE: That's why its important fellas to represent in the bedroom at all times. You have all your life to be a selfish lover when you're married!)

So look at it this way... First you break it off with her then she realizes how good a guy you are... STOP RIGHT THERE! You already succeeded if you ever get passed that far in a breakup with another girl. Most chicks when they move on..... move on.. Am I right ladies? Girl pride is strong and rarely to they come back even if it's their fault..That's why I triple respect those women that take risks and lay stuff on the line..

Anyways... So you got past that.. you got that feeling of retribution because her charles barkley rebound guy didn't work out and she seeks comfort again with you, but you don't take her back.. pimp move. But at this point, you would be more pimp if you would've woke up many times in the morning from her house until you sorted things out with "yourself". But I understand....4 years is a long time and she hurt you.. but hey.. You've accomplished everything a guy could want from a breakup.. including a picture of you in her new boyfriend's back pocket.

Remember. you don't miss opportunities, you create new ones amigo....
Stallion Speaks.. heee hahhh!!

... riddle me this ...

Why is it that women place a non-trivial amount of importance on titles?

I was at a friend's place last night and they had guests over. This one lady would always append "You know, my boyfriend" whenever she said her boyfriend's name ("Ryan"). It's like *enthusiastic applause* "Congratulations! You've got a boyfriend!". One of my female friends tell me that it's important for a lady to have a title because it brings a sense of security. I won't argue if it does or not, because that's not the point here. My question is... Why should it? It's not like you can guarantee to be with a person forever and not have feelings for anyone else in the future.

Boyfriend.
Fiance.
Husband.

Sold "as is".

house music all night long... house music all night long... house music all night long... house music... house music... house music all night long...

*curles up in a fetal position*

I would characterize last night as a "character-building" night. We headed out to Chi Chi's (next door to Boy's Toys) for a friend of a friend's birthday party. It's a small-ish venue with an upscale decor. Leave your plastic at home since they don't take credit cards at the bar. They're fairly new so they probably are still in the process of obtaining a merchant account and card-reading hardware. It probably was for the best anyways since I am notorious for opening bar tabs. Couple that with the fact that there was nothing else I wanted to do at the place other than drink. I just can't find any appeal in house music. Am I alone on this one? Maybe I'm just too close-minded when it comes to music... I'd like to think I gave it a bit of a chance...

Me: "So, is this good house music or bad?"
Raver: "This one on right now sucks."
Me: *listens to "bomp-bomp-bomp-bomp"* "Oh? Why so?"
Raver: "It just does. It's weak."
Me: "Oh ok..."
Raver: "Oh but this one coming up is good!"
Me: "What makes it good?"
Raver: "You hear that little drum in the background?"
Me: *listens to "bomp-bomp-thud-bomp-bomp"* "Yeah, I think so."
Raver: "This is it right here!"
Me: *watches Raver attempt to internalize Bruce Lee's saying 'be like water'*
Me: *asks bartender for Jonny Walker Black on the rocks*

I can understand why other people have the ability to find something redeeming about house music... it's just not for me. The first thing I did when I got back to the car was pump up the Vinroc+Shortkut Soulful CD I just snagged from Amoeba... now that's the shit, son.

I just had a little phone chat with my last ex. Our relationship ended rather unceremoniously after four and a half years (she cheated on me in all aspects but the physical). Third parties are always the harshest test of a relationship. She went out with that guy for a few months, but they didn't end up working out (which of course made me feel sooooo goooood for some reason). During that time I was busy catching up with old friends... ya know... doing the "healing" thing. She's always been in the back of my mind. What ifs. And all of that ish. We would go out sometimes. Have dinner. Catch up. During those episodes she'd always end up in tears about something. Either work. Or how miserable she is and how our past relationship was the brightest spot in her life. She'd ask if I were with anyone. I'd say no. I'd say I'm commitment averse... "I'm incapable of having a relationship with anyone at the moment... even you"... Today she told me about this guy she's now seeing. "He's a genuinely good guy. He's exactly like you!" What's up with that? I'd be lying if I didn't feel an ounce of bitterness and jealousy. Now I'm left wondering. Is she with him because she knows she can't have me? Or, is her new man actually "just like me" and then some? Intellectually, I know I'm not ready for a relationship so I can't really see this as a missed opportunity.