"Most of the people I know are either really into a relationship or really really single."
Is this a late 20s phenomenon? Is this isolated to single Asians? Or is this statement from a localized point of view?
As the months turn to years, the polarization of my friend’s relationship status has become more acute. I can only name a couple of friends who are still seeking/working to be in a relationship. They are the statistical anomalies. Right now, in the middle of the holiday season (and upcoming Valentine’s day), when in years past most of my single friends would lament that they want to be with somebody, most singles are actually happy being single. By rote, we explain that we’re not against being in a relationship if the right person comes along, but until then, we’re actually relishing the single life. Can it get lonely? Of course, if you don’t have real friends; especially “special” friends.
At the other extreme are my relationship friends, though still funny and cool, they have lost something. Seems like the work that they have put into making the relationship work and last has taken the very spontaneity and creativeness that got them in the relationship. I’m not talking about my married/family friends; they have a huge responsibility that necessitates following a scripted plan. Just like Bill Walsh back in the day, my family friends need to follow the first 15 plays to ensure that the team wins in the end. I’m talking about my relationship friends who are actually worse than my family friends. It seems that they are more sardonic and have not had a good belly laugh the past 2 years.
Hey, I know I’m being very subjective here. I’m sure most of my friends, in a relationship or not, are happy in some way or another. But, I guess the gist or my rant is directed to all the people, my relatives especially, that I don’t NEED to be in a relationship, let alone be married. Just because I’m getting older and beginning to establish myself that the next step is to get married. It would be a logical next step if I needed to sire children to help till my 40 acres and plant rice.
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