What would be considered more as cheating:

If a man and a woman meet up at a party , get drunk off the heezy, find an empty bedroom, get it on all night, wake up the next morning and go their separate ways?

or

If a guy and a girl meet at a coffee shop in the middle of the afternoon, strike up a casual conversation about their respective lives. They then decide to continue their conversation over dinner and talk about what their current mates lack. They end their evening walking hand in hand, promising to write one another on occassion as they continue their status quo?

I was thinking about this today in the shower (contrary to what you might think, I get other things done in the shower). What is so bad about cheating. Is it the passion and intimacy of the encounter? Or is it the physical act of sex?

I suppose that I would be mighty pissed if my gf did either of the two, but I would be more inclined to leave her if she shared some passionate and intimate night with someone -- a la scenario #2. If it was a drunk moment of stupidity, I would be more disgusted and turned off, but may eventually let it go in the future. If it is the second type, I would be heartbroken that she shared an intimate night with someone she just met yet didn't feel comfortable enough to tell me the same things.


That's all, I don't take that long in the shower after all. Unless, well, you know the link...