The Big Aiyah

"Sometimes I used to wonder
How the hell an ugly dude get a fine girl's number
He's gettin juiced for his ducats
I tell a girl in a minute yo, I drive a bucket
And won't think nuttin of it." -N.W.A.’s "I ain’t the one"

TEN REASONS HOW MEN SCREW UP WHEN TRYING TO HOOK UP!

okay, i'm "back" in the dating scene--i guess... as i've tried to win my "dream" girl the past few months-and lost, i've been thinking about how i screwed up... and i've been thinking and researching on how men, in general, screw themselves over. i've come across ten reasons that i found and actually find it as a truth!

MISTAKE #1 Nice guys finish last or not even finish!

man, have you ever noticed that women, never seem to be attracted to "nice" guys?

and i’m sure, like me, you have too.

it seems that all my (attractive) female friends have always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in me!

what the fuck is going on here?

now, i know this may piss off some of ya'll, but it's actually very simple...

women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. they choose the men they do because they feel a powerful gut level attraction for them, yet its not just how physically attractive the guy is, but how much a jerk he can be!

arggh!

being nice doesn't make a woman feel that powerful attraction.
and being a nice guy doesn't make a woman choose you.

haha.. i know this doesn't make a lot of dollars & sense, and it's hard to accept and realize it... but get over it.

guys, until you accept this fact and begin to act on it, you'll never have the success with women that you want.

MISTAKE #2: Trying To: "Convince Her To Like You"

what do most guys do when they meet a woman that they really like... but she's just not interested?

yup, they try to "convince" the woman to feel differently.

from what i've noticed and experienced... you can never change a woman's attraction for you! the chances are astronomical! unless you win the lotto of course!

you cannot convince a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning"...

if a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that by being "reasonable" with her?

but guys, we all do it.

when a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind!

hey wussie--bad idea. thank god i stopped doing that bull!

MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission

for some reason (making babies?), we have an intrinsinc desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission".

dumbasses!

women are never attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... ladies, don't ya'll agree? yet don't get me wrong here.

you don't have to treat women badly for them to like you.

you will never succeed by looking for approval... women actually get annoyed at men who seek their approval... girls, am i right?... don't you want guys who are sure of themselves?

ask any woman if wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her...

MISTAKE #4: Trying To "Buy" Her Affection With Food And Gifts

how many times have i taken a woman out to a nice and expensive dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and not choose me, instead choosing someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as i did?

too many times!

well guess what?

it's only natural when this happens... natural?

when we do these things, we say:

"I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection".

our good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. hahah, women will see this as manipulation!

MISTAKE #5: Sharing"How You Feel" Too Early InThe Relationship With Her

another dumb mistake is that most men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too early...

attractive women are rare... they get a lot of attention from men.

most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another all the time by men.... this reminds me of what the great social commentator, Chris Rock said about tryin to hook up with women... we guys always try to say some clever stuff, but in actually, we mean--"you want some dick?" women are offered dick 24/7 ya'll! hundreds of times a month!

and attractive women have usually dated a lot of men.

that's right. they know the game! game recognize game man... they know too much!

they know when you say, that "i like you, and it feels like i've known you for a long time (which you haven't at all)" then this tells the woman that you're just like all the other fools who stupidly fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves...

but there is a much more relaxed way!

there's a much better way...

to be continued!

--jeebus

posted by mister j. @ 11:25 AM