The Big Aiyah

It never ceases to amaze me. If I don't have "just one of the guys" written on my forehead, I have "sure, I'll make out with you!" instead. I spent the weekend entertaining some artists and their manager from Hawaii. The manager as well as all the members of the band were very nice and yet many were admitted players. I had a great time hanging out, listening to great music and them telling jokes.

I hung out with the manager who was a gentleman the entire time. He was so comfortable with me that he even talked generally about some of his female exploits and the situations that came about because of them. This made me wonder if everyone just sees that "just one of the guys" sign and is able to talk to me about almost anything. Do they wonder if I "want" to hear that stuff? I wasn't offended because he wasn't lude about it and when it came to other conversation, it was great. We went to my first reggae concert and he looked after me very well. So he treated me with much respect and I didn't seem to mind being "just one of the guys."

Then on the other hand, I drove the artist to his hotel. And while in the car, he asks me if I would "hang out" with him tonight after the show. I told him (nicely) thank you but no thanks. Then, he followed it with, "You're not that kind of girl I guess... how about kissing?" I gently declined again and that was that. And on the other hand, as a person, this guy is extremely nice and down to earth. He tells jokes and he's got that genuine smile and aura that just attracts all kinds of people. But, I wasn't sure if I should have been flattered or appalled at his request.

After the show, as I'm standing outside the hotel talking to the manager, the artist pulls up with one of the waitresses and they smile at me as they run excitedly up the stairs. It was rather ironic because as I said, "Wow, I didn't need to know who he went up there with" and his manager responds back, "ya that's probably just what she's thinking about us!"

I started wondering how I can overlook someone's "Playa" lifestyle and see that they are nice people and treat me well otherwise. It was easy looking past the "playas" in these guys. Then, I thought, what about when the "Playa" is the man I'm dating? I don't think I can see beyond that. I guess I'll deal with that when I do finally hook up with someone, eh! =)

posted by Ukulele Princess @ 5:53 PM