I just had a little phone chat with my last ex. Our relationship ended rather unceremoniously after four and a half years (she cheated on me in all aspects but the physical). Third parties are always the harshest test of a relationship. She went out with that guy for a few months, but they didn't end up working out (which of course made me feel sooooo goooood for some reason). During that time I was busy catching up with old friends... ya know... doing the "healing" thing. She's always been in the back of my mind. What ifs. And all of that ish. We would go out sometimes. Have dinner. Catch up. During those episodes she'd always end up in tears about something. Either work. Or how miserable she is and how our past relationship was the brightest spot in her life. She'd ask if I were with anyone. I'd say no. I'd say I'm commitment averse... "I'm incapable of having a relationship with anyone at the moment... even you"... Today she told me about this guy she's now seeing. "He's a genuinely good guy. He's exactly like you!" What's up with that? I'd be lying if I didn't feel an ounce of bitterness and jealousy. Now I'm left wondering. Is she with him because she knows she can't have me? Or, is her new man actually "just like me" and then some? Intellectually, I know I'm not ready for a relationship so I can't really see this as a missed opportunity.