Thanks For Nuffin
Today, I heard some very important thoughts from two random sources, one Husky Boy, and another one, some young man who was helping me with my makeup.
I know that many of us go through our day at work, dealing with things that we don't necessarily want to do but must do so that we can pay the rent, etc. And some of our work goes unnoticed, and that's a given. However from time to time that need to get some notice does peek its head up. It's not a nice feeling, to feel like you want someone to notice you, but truthfully, a thank you every now and then is a good thing. I'm not thinking just for work's sake, but just between friends or lovers, or even family or colleagues. Thank you goes a long way.
It satisfies a very basic human need to gain acceptance or to be recognized. Some take this to another level entirely and call it "a need for approval" and that has its roots in other things that I won't get into, but thank you is a response and validation that is lacking in American society. I notice it most in the workspace, but I also notice it in the interpersonal lives of the people around me. A lack of gratitude? No, more like an inability to express himself/herself. To say thank you requires an amount of vulnerability that is uncomfortable, but think about the important outcome that is felt by sharing that part of yourself.
I've always taken the time to say thank you to people for the little things that they bring my life, from helping me out with a project or just for trying their hardest to complete a task. Not only for my own karma, so that it returns to me, but because I know it's important that others know that they are appreciated.
Believe it or not, I worked my ass off today, and it's not easy to compile statistics, and make great sense of it. Not to mention teach yourself the software. I know, you think I sit around all day and sip mimosas and stare at men all day. That's at home, Voodoo Babies. But appreciation goes a long way, and my fuming angst will go burning for about a day or two. Call it character flaw. I call it "been-there-one-too-many-times." Justifiable rage? Get over it? I will. But until then, tell someone today Thanks, and do it genuinely. It does mean a lot to the people around us, and until we learn to be nicer to each other, much in the world will not change.
I'm not idealistic, but I'm realistic.
But unkindness makes me a cynic.
Voodoo
Wednesday, June 06, 2001
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